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distressed The 4 argeements was just recomnded to me by my psychologist. The reason I see him is for anxiety and panic disorder. The only times i experience anxiety is on the soccer field.
I'm suppose to play a game this afternoon, but I have been playing horribly because of some fear that I can't get out of my head. Soccer is whats expected of me by friends, family, and myself. But last week I was told I wasn't good enough anymore. This brought mixed feelings. Most were feeling of anxiety though. My coach wants me to play this afternoon, but the more and more I think about it, I don't want to go. i'm so confused at what I am feeling.
One part of me says that I should go, because I commited to this soccer team and I have to be there if I said that I would. Another part of me says that this is not what I like. If I go somewhere I don't want to be I'm not going to be happy. But will I then be disapointed in myself for not going and putting up with it and probably playing badly again.
I haven't read much of the book so far. Maybe this is why I can't help myself out at this point.
Any words of advise? or insight into why my head is pulling me in two different directions?
July 20 2005, 20:06:51 UTC 6 years ago
Then when the coach made the comment - did you decide you don't want to play unless you can play well? Or maybe it was just a bad day, a slump you were going through or a miscommunication? Maybe you should call the coach and ask them to help with the confusion.
For me, if you love to play - play with that in your mind.
Hope it helps.
July 20 2005, 21:37:48 UTC 6 years ago
Thank you for your comment. I still have alot that I need to work on mentally. I also like you mentioned, need to remind myself that i'm playing to have fun, not to impress anyone. Thats what sports really should be about.
July 23 2005, 23:35:43 UTC 6 years ago
No one can define you
The hardest lesson that I've had to learn is... no one else can tell you what you are or are not. If someone else says "you're not a good soccer player" then that is their opinion. It is what *you* think about yourself that matters :-)I wish you the best of luck with everything you do. Please feel free to bug me if this post helped you or bothered you. I always wish to help :-)
July 25 2005, 11:52:25 UTC 6 years ago
Re: No one can define you
This post did help. This whole community is very helpful and I plan on taking full advantage of it. It's great to have so many people reaching out to help each other just get through life. I'm half way done with the book. I plan to have the rest finished very soon. Thank you.